5 Simple Tips for a Happier Marriage {and Valentine’s Giveaways}

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A while back, I wrote 5 Points for a Stronger Marriage, a quite serious spiritual advice on successful marriage. This time, I’m sharing a set of simple tips on how to enjoy each other in every day.

     1.  Be the Best of Friends       

I have heard women say that they married their best friend and that’s just wonderful! But for those of us who did not, it’s never too late to develop a friendship with our spouses, one thats is so special and intimate it blesses each other and makes the marriage stronger.

Just as how we are with our bestie (best friend) – being ourselves in the good times and the bad, loving, caring, and just being stubbornly there for each other – how much more blessed and wonderful if we are that with our spouses? For what could be a more special – sacred – relationship than that of being with the “flesh of our flesh, and bone of our bone” (Gen. 2:23)?

Besties talk delightedly to each other, listening to each other with genuine interest and confiding in each other trustingly. They enjoy each other’s company so much they spend as much time together as possible.

Well, do these to our spouses! We don’t have to leave the house to look for the friendship we’ve been longing for. With consistent prayers, turn the man or woman we married into our best friends.

     2.  Maintain a Healthy and Refreshing “Communication Life”

One of the fruits of being best of friends with our spouses is having a healthy and refreshing “communication life”. What could be more satisfying than to be able to talk with each other about anything under the sun? Things that stimulate, inspire, and encourage one  another, and make each other laugh out loud.

I remember my beloved parents. It was their practice to wake up very early in the morning when it was still dark and talk while in bed. We would be awakened by their hushed voices and stifled chuckles. In their morning conversations, they never criticized each other nor were rude to one another. They genuinely enjoyed talking and listening to each other’s stories. My beloved parents were best friends. In fact, their endearment for each other was giyem (an Ilocano word for kaibigan or friend).

Some years ago, after my cousin’s husband died, I went to visit her. She told me she was okay but said that it was hard not to have her husband around to talk with. In all their life together, my cousin missed her conversations with her husband most of all.

Indeed, having a healthy communication life with our spouses helps us through difficult times.

Additional resources: 7 Tips in Practicing Good Communication at Home; Communicating on the Higher Ground

     3.  Be a Source of Inspiration and Encouragement to Each Other

Do we think we inspire our spouses to be better persons, husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, employers, leaders, writers, or whatever role they play? Or, are we the source of pain, annoyance, sorrow, and heaviness for them? Rudeness, snapping, saying hurting and cruel words – these all wound the heart and can destroy a marriage.

Do our spouses seek our company because they enjoy it and know that they will be encouraged, comforted, uplifted with our words? Or do they do their best to avoid talking to us because they know we are too critical and/or hostile and we often turn the talk into a sermon or we don’t really relish long conversations and have no time for such?

The most important question we must ask ourselves is: Do they see the Lord Jesus in us? 

Being a source of inspiration and encouragement to our spouses is truly the best thing we could do for them.

Additional resource: Kindness and Wisdom

     4.  Be Willing to Sacrifice for Each Other

The strength of a marriage is tested through hard times. This is when love goes deeper, and at the same time, higher – to a loftier state. This is the love that sacrifices.

There are times that my beloved husband has to sacrifice some minutes of precious sleep just to massage my legs so I could go to sleep comfortably, or warm up some snacks in the wee hours of the morning to appease my painful stomach and difficult breathing. In return, I would do my best to reciprocate his sacrifice by baking goodies and serve them hot just when he arrives from the office.

Doing these daily sacrifices gladly and without murmurings or complaints is a most noble thing and truly pleasing in God’s sight.

     5.  Do Not Neglect to Spend Sweet Moments Together

And I’m talking romance here. I believe we all have our own ways and styles of doing this?

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My gratitude list – thankful to the Lord for His gifts:

  • watching Tim munch on a warmed, fudgy homemade chocolate muffin
  • homemade mango ice cream which the family loves
  • Hannah’s 11th birthday and all the beautiful ways the Lord has been blessing her ~ I haven’t enough words to thank Him!
  • the pashmina shawl my little brother brought me from his visit to Singapore
  • that Tagalog worship song the worship leader sang last overnight worship service which lifted me up to blissful, spiritual heights

Comments

  1. Maribel Besana says:

    Praise the LORD! Thank you so much po ate Rina and GOD bless you more for sharing the 5 simple things for a happier marriage, this was really a big help for me and my husband and for others too. We are just starting our marriage life and we both know that we have a lot of things to learn. Communication with each other is really important and though we’re not physically together like the other couple but we sure find time to talk and pray together everyday and every night before and after he arrives or leaves for work. Our Dearest JESUS is our BEST FRIEND but I’ll forever thank our Dearest JESUS for He has blessed me with a good and loving friend in the form of my husband. We also have our misunderstanding but I still and always grateful to the Good LORD for everything. He continually bless and help us both not just to be strong with our love and trust for each other but also to love and have more faith with our Dearest JESUS. We always ask guidance and help to our Father in Heaven to strengthen our marriage despite our distances and differences and for us to be a blessing for others as well.

    All the glory and honor belongs to our Dearest JESUS!

  2. Tereasa says:

    What a beautiful post about marriage. Rina, I am so thankful to have found your blog. I enjoy every post and always leave feeling encouraged! Won’t you please stop by and visit my blog sometime? I’d love to see you there!

    hispenonmyheart.blogspot.com

  3. docbabes says:

    thank you Rina for posting Tips for a Happier marriage..although mine is already a great one I am still inspired to learn from your post..i liked it so much I am following your blog and signing in for an e-mail subscription..will be anticipating your next post ..May God bless you!

  4. Joanie Qualls says:

    Beautiful, thank you. I love your precious sharing., soooooo much!!!!!
    My believing prayers for you now , Rina, are what He says in part from Psalm 103:1-5 “Bless the Lord oh my soul and all that is within me, bless His Holy Name. Bless the Lord, oh my soul and forget not all His benefits. He forgiveth all my/your iniquities and healeth all my/your diseases……” and Matthew 8:16,17. “Jesus Himself took my/your sicknesses and healeth all my/ your diseases.” Your precious promises of healing now. Jesus Christ, Saviour and Lord and Healer,I receive and thank YOU for. I come humbly and thankfully In YOUR wonderful Name, love, forgiveness and holiness for now and for eternity.

    • RinaPeru says:

      Thank you so much, Joanie, for your fervent love and prayers! You definitely inspire and encourage me in return. But then, isn’t that what we’re here for – to encourage one another? The Lord is my strength in everything I do. In my writings, I totally depend on His guidance, wisdom and inspiration.

      May the Lord bless you more abundantly!
      Rina

  5. gina says:

    I really love to read your blog, so inspiring. Though I can consider mine as one of the successful marriages but still I know we need to learn more not only from experiences that we’ve been through for almost 15 years but from the expert, like u :-). It helps a lot especially sometimes our ups and downs test our love for each other. Thanks a lot for those reminders (as I consider it)-those reminders that surely came from HIM…..thru you my dear Sis Rina.
    Have a good day and health always…..

    • RinaPeru says:

      Dear Gina, once again I’m just so glad to “see” you here and read your lovely comment. I can’t say I’m a marriage expert but our marriage is totally surrendered to the Lord – He it is who guides us in every day and every way. (BTW, have you received the parcel I sent?)

      Thank you for your friendship!
      Rina

  6. luz d. sevilla says:

    wow, naman…brief and concise. Very beneficial specially sa mag-asawa na may problema sa relationship…very well said….. Thanks po.

  7. Thank you for posting the 5 simple tips for a happier marriage, I enjoyed reading your post. These tips are very important to have a successful marriage.

    Every couple should put Dearest JESUS in the center of their life if they want to have a happy marriage.

  8. marilyn facton says:

    Praise the mighty name of our Dearest Lord JESUS CHRIST!

    God is so great for He has led me to read what you have shared (5 Simple Tips for a Happier Marriage ). Upon reading it, I realized that I have been so occupied with my work that I somehow failed to reciprocate the kindness, efforts and sacrifices of my husband…It really breaks my heart to realize my shortcomings…and thanks to you for your article is really an “eye-opener”. I love my sweetheart so much and all I want to do right now is to make up to him. Thanks be to GOD for being the center of our relationship!

    Thanks to you too, Bel. Sis. Rina! God is truly amazing for using you mightily to change many people’s lives by bringing them closer to Him. You are a blessing to us…

    GOD bless you more and more…

  9. Thanks for sharing your lovely post po but i do not have a husband so i cannot react on your post much but then again, I love it po its good for everyone to the couples, to those people who are planning to be together. C:
    In addition, I actually hear this from the preachers in our church. MAKE DEAREST JESUS the center of your LIFE. God bless you^_^

  10. Wow – what a wonderful post. It was very inspiring. Stopping by from the Titus 2 Bloghop

  11. MYRA LUZ N. OCANG says:

    Your post is wonderful….I’m reminded about the book I’ve once read , “I’m Glad I Married You!”

    I also praise the Lord for using you to rekindle my faith…to renew within me “The Joy of my Salvation”. May God bless you even more cousin!

  12. Latisha says:

    This is good, practical advice.
    Latisha
    confessionsofamartha.blogspot.com

  13. Vicky says:

    This is such good and important advice, not just at Valentine’s Day, but all year round. We must keep Christ at the center of the marriage. I am a new FB fan visiting from We are that family. Vicky from Mess For Less

  14. rowena says:

    i have comment posted yesterday…

  15. rowena says:

    superlike HEALING MOMENTS of sister rina

  16. Pamela says:

    Such good ways to keep our love alive. Those of us with good marriages are blessed but we need to work to keep our love fresh — a lot like our love for God.

    I won your last sweet giveaway so don’t add me to this one. I just wanted you to know your post was a blessing.

  17. Charlotte says:

    Thank you for another beautiful post. Now pass me one of those delightful chocolate muffins. LOL
    Blessings,
    Charlotte

  18. Hi Rina,
    What a beautiful blog you have and an excellent marriage post. You are a wonderful fit for the Marital Oneness Mondays linkup! Please consider coming back each Monday and linking up again. Blessings to you,
    ~jolene

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