How are We Complete in Him?

I guess we all know the movie where the line “You complete me”, which became the unbeatable pick-up line yet, came from. But seriously, I know that there are many incurable romantics out there who really believe that there is someone destined for them who can complete them.

But (and I know not many people know this), this is not true at all. No man or woman can complete us. The dictionary generally defines completeness as “an object is complete if nothing needs to be added to it”. Within this basic definition, when we ask ourselves this question, “If I can have my dream man/woman, am I already complete and need nothing more to be added to me?”, we know that this is entirely not true.

In the letter of Apostle Paul to the Colossians, he wrote that we are complete in Christ (Col. 2:10).

As you therefore have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, rooted and built up in Him and established in the faith, as you have been taught, abounding in it[a] with thanksgiving.

Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. (Col. 2:6-10)

In biblical terms, we understand that it is Christ who redeems us from sin and death and who gives us life – life eternal. Apostle Paul’s letter virtually warns us that there is nothing in this world who can make us complete except the Lord Jesus Christ. When we are in Him and He in us, we need nothing to be added to us. For when we have sought the kingdom of God and His righteousness, that is, we have Christ, He will add to us all the things we need (Mat. 6:33).

But how do we translate this into our daily walk of faith when we are buffeted by trials – illness, sufferings, loss, sorrow, hardships? How can we know and feel that we are complete in Him when we hunger for healing and long for deliverance from suffering and sorrow?

This was, in effect, what a sister in Christ and I talked about deeply after Christmas. She came from the province to visit me as she is wont to do. This sister had known the depths of sorrow as I had known the depths of physical suffering. In short, we are two people who had both gone through fiery trials of faith. When we speak of God’s trials in our lives, it is in a native tongue, so to speak.

As we tried to blink back tears, we both knew that through it all, we had known and felt the great love and mercy of God. We had known His comfort in sorrow and suffering that nothing in this world could have done better. We had known how durable His peace and joy are through the darkest storm. He alone could comfort, heal, strengthen, relieve, deliver. We wiped away tears as we both laughed and cried talking about the goodness and glory of God in our tests-fortified lives.

What do all these mean? That the trials of being and walking with Christ complete us. This is exactly what St. James wanted us to know:

My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. (James 1:2-4, emphasis added)

This is the end of all the suffering and sorrow. And when we know that there is a purpose and end to it all, we can prove that we are standing on the true grace of God. This is the seat of our hope and reason for our rejoicing.

…the God of all grace, who called us[e] to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you. …this is the true grace of God in which you stand. (1 Pet. 5:10, 12, emphasis added)

I’m linking up with these lovely blogs.

Journey with Jesus,


  1. Veron Pagulayan says:

    A blessed day po Ate Rina.. Merry Christmas po and a Blessed New Year.. :)
    Reading your blog reminds me of our song in the choir last Wednesday entitled “You Are” and it goes like this,
    You are the love of my life,
    You are the hope that I cling to,
    You mean more than this world to me
    I wouldn’t trade You for silver or gold
    I wouldn’t trade You for riches untold
    You are, You are my everything
    And as i am singing this, the tears kept on falling for really, i felt that I am complete as long as I have my Dearest JESUS and He is my everything.. I may not have the money,the material things and fame that this world may offer, I may have trials and heartaches,but only to HIM i always turn to,say to Him that I am happy or in pain and I can definitely say that just having the LORD in my life makes me want to shout and tell everyone that I am the most content, complete person in the world.. and as I am continuing the song, and it goes,
    I couldn’t take one step without You, I could never go on
    I couldn’t live one day without You, I need you in my life..
    I guess, no one will be that “YOU” in my life but only our DEAREST LORD JESUS.
    That’s how I am complete in HIM..

    Kindly extend po my greetings also to Kuya Felix and your kids po.. Our Dear LORD JESUS bless you more po..

  2. Veron Pagulayan says:

    Ate,my facebook account name po is Sabilong Tey.. God bless po..

  3. Vanessa Santilla says:

    Praise the Mighty and Precious Name of our Dearest Lord Jesus Christ!


    Happy New Year ate Rina and to your family as well.
    As I read your blog, there is something that pinch my heart, because it’s very true that majority of the people living away from God really believe that someone who can complete their lives is their partner to be and not our Lord Jesus Christ. I do believe, only Dearest JESUS can complete me, nobody greater, nobody but only Dearest JESUS…. In times of trouble and trials only Him whom I can call for help 24/7, He is always there! He never leave me nor forsake me…He gave me joy in my heart that nobody can give…He gave me a loving and God-fearing husband and He gave us a precious gift, our son, that completes our family…All the blessings comes only from our Dearest Jesus….It’s very true, only Dearest Jesus can complete us and nobody else…All things are possible to God!
    Your blog is full of encouragement and hope, very inspirational and it truly enlightens your readers.
    God bless you po and more power!

    Best Regards,

  4. Vanessa Santillan says:

    Ate this is sis. Vanessa Santillan po, kulang ng po ng “n” yung surname sa comment ko po, God bless po…

  5. So true! It is easy to get caught up on trying to find the someone or something to “complete” us when all we need is in Jesus.

  6. Renee says:

    Oh, so very true. We are complete only in Jesus…..but blessed to have someone special in our lives to walk this journey with too :) …….God bless you.

    • RinaPeru says:

      You’ve put it perfectly, Renee. Yes, we’re “blessed to have someone special in our lives to walk this journey with”.