“The Wrestlings” Final Discussion: Living Holy

The last chapter of my little ebook The Wrestlings Along the Narrow Path talks about holiness, that it is the end, the final outcome, of all our struggles in our faith walk.

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In our Church, we are taught to dress modestly and decently for that is a manifestation of holiness. So, we wear long skirts and dresses whose styles don’t show a lot of flesh or curves. The purpose is to not entice men to ogle and sin with their eyes and in their minds. We are also discouraged to wear jewelries and makeup that depicts “fakeness” in place of the natural beauty that comes from a spirit at peace with God. Simple beauty and display of humble aura, therefore, make for a portrait of holiness.

But I want you to understand this: that without the power of the Holy Spirit working in our hearts and minds, we can never do these things willingly and gladly. 

Holiness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit in us. The wearing of modest apparel and bearing an overall aura of a quiet and meek spirit are products of walking closely in the Spirit.  Humble surrender and obedience to God’s will emanate from a heart that is empowered by the Holy Spirit.

A woman, therefore, that is led by the Spirit of Christ will clothe herself in a way that is pleasing in God’s sight and to others.

But holiness doesn’t stop there. There is also a need for us to guard our hearts and minds the whole time we are awake. Unholiness can easily dwell in the heart and mind that are not diligently and constantly guarded. There are two main important things that we need to do: one, to determine in ourselves to be vigilant in guarding our hearts and minds from the flaming arrows of the devil, and two, to stay as close as possible to the Savior. That is, to spend time in His presence everyday.

These two things must make up the cycle of our daily lives to be able to follow holiness (Heb. 12:14).

Determination to Guard the Heart and Mind

Just as spending quality time in the presence of the Lord – praising, worshiping, praying, and soaking in the Word – cleanses and empowers us, so does spending too much time with the world dilute this spiritual cleanness and power. It could dilute them until we become powerless, weak, and defeated.

The world is the rich source of all temptations. If we immerse ourselves in it – TV, Internet, worldly magazines, pleasures – we acquire its ways. Before we know it, sin – pride, covetousness, comparison, competition, envy, jealousy, resentment, bitterness, uncleanness, gossip… – has crept into our beings.

Be conscious and cautious with what you watch and read and listen to. Don’t let yourself slide into complacency and be sucked into the quick sand of worldliness where it’s hard to extricate yourself.

…keep oneself unspotted from the world. (James 1:27)

Our thought life has a huge role in our pursuit of holiness. What do we meditate on? Are they things that are acceptable to God? I have read in one of Ms. Joni Eareckson Tada’s books that she wrestled with her thought life. I can relate with her. We are two people who, although we have different disabilities, are prone to “living” in our thoughts. People who are weak and unable to do things normally and are often strapped in bed or in the wheelchair tend to while away the time (and suffering) daydreaming. It depends on what one meditates upon. In my case, I daydream of all the things I want to do when I’m well. That’s not bad to a certain extent, but it could become consuming or spawn adverse feelings such as too much craving which leads to emptiness, bitterness, or resentment.

Sometimes, daydreaming could also become a fictional romance (if you have a rich imagination!) that goes on and on in your mind wherein you are secretly delighted in. (Guilty. And this is where I also struggle).

May the words of my mouth
and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing to you,
O Lord, my rock and my redeemer. (Ps. 19:14 NLT)

Draw Ever Nearer to God and Stay in His Presence

There are two things that we must do to remain in the presence of God: extricate ourselves from the things of the world – Internet, TV, incessant busyness, etc. – and draw near to Him. Everyday. Let our hearts and minds be drenched (watered abundantly) by His Spirit (in worship and prayer) and His Word.

Apart from our Savior, there is no holiness that can reside in our beings. He alone imparts it.

You can find information on my ebook and the complete discussions here.

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Journey with Jesus,


  1. Genevieve says:

    This was very sweet to read. Thank you

  2. Carol says:

    We do need times of quiet to draw near to the Lord. Your words give wise encouragement.

  3. Helene says:

    I can see why you point back to the heart. It is so easy to be infected with the world’s standards and it starts with our “entertainment!”A great reminder.

    • RinaPeru says:

      Oh yes, yes, Helene. I need this constant reminder, too, this ancient wisdom: “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” (Prov. 4:23)

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