A Tale of a Marriage

The bride wore a Larry Espinosa gown with the designer’s signature bodice made of a curve-flattering corset sprinkled with tiny Swarovski crystals. The skirt was luxurious satin, full and gloriously flowing with scattered Swarovski. It was elegant in its simplicity. Her hair and make-up was done by Leony Diaz. There was no excuse the bride wouldn’t look radiant. And she did! The Garden Ballroom of Edsa Shangri-la Manila was just perfect for the wedding reception. When bride and groom ascended the winding, grand staircase of the ballroom, one could imagine a girl’s fantasy coming true.

Four years passed and the same bride – now older, maybe wiser, but certainly ailing and weak – sat beside her groom (yes, same one) before a preacher as they received the Lord’s blessings as husband and wife. The bride now wore a simple white suit and a chiffon baby pink inner blouse. The whole ensemble was sewed by an elder dressmaker from their church. There was no glitter (she even forgot to pin a brooch!) and no rose bouquet. The couple’s daughter, now three years old, sat squeezed between them in the Queen Anne settee. The family’s living room was no match for the Garden Ballroom of Edsa Shangri-la, but the solemn occasion was graced with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. This was their Christian wedding.

There are marriages that are made in heaven (at least that’s what they claim!). Some are not as fortunate and they implode, leaving the shreds of their dream and hearts scattered about with no hope of being mended. And then there’s the marriage found in-between these two extremes: shattered but made whole again by God. Just like ours.

Between our fabulous Catholic wedding and our simple, Spirit-filled Christian one is 4 years of pain, heartbreaking problems, and eventual separation followed by wanton living. But at the end of it was God’s open arms and His offer of unconditional love, amazing grace for complete forgiveness and salvation, and a new life in Him.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Cor. 5:17)

If you’ve ever doubted God’s love, even His existence, I’m here to tell you that He’s alive and knows everything about you! If you’ve been living in the in-between, waiting for a breakthrough in your life and problems, hanging in uncertainty and despondency, know that God has not forgotten you. For all you know, He  wants to use our story to call you to His embrace.

On Monday, April 28th, we’re celebrating 14 years of marriage. Others may claim years of wedded bliss with their best friends. Well, my husband and I can’t claim the same. But that doesn’t mean ours is not true and entire or that we should be ashamed of our past. On the contrary, we tell our story to give God the glory, that there’s nothing too hard for Him. Nothing is impossible with Him. He is in the business of fixing and mending and healing and you can count on it. We are celebrating because it is the Lord who makes our lives beautiful replete with sacrificial love and devotion, precious lessons, authenticity, and humble walk with Him.

My husband and I learned that a marriage cannot survive outside of the close guidance of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecc. 4:12 NIV)

A cord of three strands: you, your spouse, and the Lord. Make Him the center of your marriage.

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Journey with Jesus,

Comments

  1. elizabeth jose says:

    Dear Sister Rina,

    your testimony is beautiful. i have forwarded it to my sister, Rosemary, who is also going through a rough patch in her marriage of 18 plus years. We look forward to her testimony too in the days ahead.

    Meanwhile i also ask you to remember me in your prayers. I am going thru a period of despondency too, in my career. I want to quit my job but have no other source of income. A major part of what is wearying me out is not the job itself, but the daily commute which is hectic and tiresome, where i live in Mumbai city, India. I am 51 and been in the Co over 16 years. I am trying to get promoted to a different role here in the same office and have approached my boss to speak to the higher ups in the Company for a recommendation. But i don’t know whether he actually will, because if i get promoted, his own work might suffer a bit. I have been working with the same person for over 10 years now and i want to grow out of this role now. Difficult to find a new job at this age because companies prefer younger workers. Sorry to bore you with the details. But i am holding on by faith and waiting for a breakthrough. God bless you sister and it was great to read about how the Lord brought restoration to your marriage

    warm wishes in Christ
    elizabeth India

    • RinaPeru says:

      Dear Elizabeth, thank you for your message and for sharing your burden. I pray that the gracious Lord will shine His light on you and His Spirit will lead you to the best option regarding your job, that He will eliminate all problems and obstacles, and you will be happy and contented. In Jesus’ name! Amen.

      God is our problem-solver. For a long time, we’ve been looking for a house help who is really trained, industrious and hardworking, but all who have come were just the opposite and I was very unhappy and frustrated. We tried an agency which boasts that they are number 1 in our country. So they gave us a housekeeper who showed all the good qualities we were looking for. The problem was, she didn’t want to stay with us. She wasn’t used to be alone and working in a big house (she used to work in a condo in the heart of the city; we live in a suburb). She insisted for a replacement. But we prayed to God to change her heart and mind. After sometime, she told us she wanted to stay. Our God is good!

      Blessings to you!

  2. Dearest Rina, thank you for your transparency. It is an encouragement for all of us to keep Jesus in the center of our marriages – because our oneness in marriage can only truly happen when we are united to our Head.

    Thanks for sharing this, dear one! ((hugs)) and Happy Anniversary!!

  3. Hazel Moon says:

    Marriage is not always roses and silver bells, but with Jesus as the head of the household, there is peace that many will not know until they come to the Lord. Thank you for sharing your lovely story with us here at “Tell Me a Story.” God has graced your marriage with his loving arms.

  4. laura says:

    What a lovely bride and groom! Your words here remind me that Christ is my bridegroom and no amount of earthly strife can take that joy. I agree with Elizabeth, your testimony is powerful and I’m grateful for the ways you share.

    • RinaPeru says:

      Thank you, Laura! Yes, I always remind myself, too, that Christ is my ultimate Groom. Blessings!

  5. Janis Cox says:

    I am following you again. It must be my night to meet you. Love this testimony of a faith-filled return to God. Awesome.
    blessings,
    Janis

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