Choose Love Over Guilt

I know that there are Christ-followers like me who are too hard on themselves. For years of faithfully serving the Lord, I had put the burden of “feeling guilty” upon myself even for unfounded reasons. I had believed that God was always on the lookout for my faults, however little they were. That He’s just waiting for me to slip up, make the wrong move, word, or thought, and He was there ready to pounce. Well, I hadn’t exactly imagined it that way, but I had punished myself into feeling guilty even before I knew what He was going to do about my slip-ups, shortcomings, and failures. That hard feeling on myself drove me to believe that God was displeased, even angry at me, and maybe He didn’t want to have anything to do with me. And because I was believing and feeling that, there were times I hardly knew how to present myself to Him but to cower and beg for mercy.

But I found out that if we punish ourselves for every single failure, mistake, or shortcoming that we didn’t even do wilfully, but only that we’re sometimes weak – WE CAN NEVER FEEL JESUS’ LOVE. When we willingly receive Satan’s serving of guilt in a silver platter and believe that Jesus is probably fuming about what we’ve done this time – we can think, feel, and even believe anything just for us to avoid presenting ourselves before Him. And that’s exactly what the devil wants: to alienate us from our Lord and King. He will use just about anything just so we’ll not feel the healing and comforting love of Jesus. And guilt is one of his powerful weapons. But know this:

For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things.

Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. (1 John 3:20-21)

Now, I’m slowly learning that the Lord Jesus Christ wants to draw us in love, not in fear. He wants to throw His net of love upon us and draw us to shore where His serving of grace awaits us. Now I’m really believing that Jesus’ love is far more powerful than any failure, mistake, or shortcoming I’ll ever commit. Or for those who are still needing salvation: His love is far greater than any sin they had ever committed. We’ve been in that place of abounding grace, too, when the Savior covered all our sins and washed us clean from every one of them. We should not forget that that grace, abundant and free-flowing, is always available to us whenever we seek Him, believing that He will always receive us in love.

I’m slowly believing that the Lord wants His children to flourish in His all-encompassing love, and not in crippling fear and all its products such as guilt, endless self-recrimination, self-hatred, etc. which, when we really examine them, are Satan’s weapons to draw us away from the Father’s love. So, let’s come before the Lord with our humble and contrite hearts believing that He’s always waiting for us with His love that never wanes.

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  1. Joanie Qualls says:

    Soooo true and wonderful, Rina !! I had finally been getting this planted in my heart also, what you said. This just was another step of assurance!!! I will send this, on to another am praying for.

    • RinaPeru says:

      I pray God will use this to minister to your friend, too, dear Joanie. Blessings to you!

  2. I am so glad to read about your journey from guilt, to love — too many Christians operate on a sense that God is always displeased with them, and when they dare to rest, ever so gently in His arms, someone is sure to say, “You’re not good enough, you know!” Keep those voices away, and keep walking beside Him to the good place where He is taking you.

    • RinaPeru says:

      Thank you for this golden counsel, Carolyn! Yes, I’m slowly learning to rest in His love that never condemns!

  3. Hazel Moon says:

    Your post is very encouraging. We watch our babies begin to walk, and we do not punish them when they fall, instead we kiss the boo boo and love them a bit. God is that way too. Thank you for sharing your lovely post with us here at “Tell Me a Story.”

    • RinaPeru says:

      What a beautiful way to put it, Hazel! I’ll remember that! Thank you and blessings to you!

  4. Ann says:

    Hi, Rina! It’s so easy for us to put ourselves down. I’m SO thankful that God isn’t waiting for us to mess up. He only sees from His loving and forgiving eyes!! Thanks for sharing your journey from guilt to love!!

  5. Jeri Taira says:

    Such a beautiful journey toward love.

    • RinaPeru says:

      I hope and pray we’ll all end up in love, Jeri. That’s the end and purpose of our journey.