Do Unto Others {Lessons from the Mount Part 3}

There is a world of difference between Christ’s command and Confucius’ famous golden rule. The golden rule of Confucius is “Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself.” Or the more popular version: “Do not do unto others what you do not want others do unto you.” Jesus’ command as written in Matthew 7:12 goes like this:

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Mat. 7:12 NIV)

Do not do unto others. For example, we will not gossip about others if we don’t want others to gossip about us. But we can do more, and that’s what Jesus’ command is all about. We can rebuke and teach others not to gossip at all, in the same way that we want to be rebuked and taught when we err. Jesus’ version is proactive, Confucius’ is passive. A Christian’s role in the world is wrapped up in this: Do unto others.

This story has been resolved years ago, but I want to share it with you for the lesson it carries.

When I was still well and president of our company, Actichem Marketing Corporation, I had a new employee who became my close friend overnight. We visited clients together and went out-of-town often, and during those hours on the road, we talked. I confided to her, leaving almost nothing about myself and my family. And my problems. One night, I invited her to dinner because I needed her advice. I was at the height of my personal problems and I practically didn’t know what to do. Two-year estrangement from husband. Adultery. Dark, uncertain future. I wanted her to help me because I perceived she was different. I almost suspected she was a Christian because of her gentleness and kindness.

She advised me alright, but in general terms, not the way I had expected a Christian woman would. She did not tell me then who and what she really was.

Even when I requested her to accompany me to my liposuction procedure with a popular cosmetic surgeon, she clammed up. She didn’t speak. She didn’t say it was wrong, it was vanity, and it might not be safe for me.

Weeks after the procedure, I fell ill. On my 36th birthday celebration, I could hardly leave my bed. My office staff gathered around the bed as I told them that I was looking for a Christian Church where I could go and ask for God’s mercy for me. It was only then that she spoke up. She said she was a born-again Christian and was serving the Lord in Jesus Miracle Crusade International Ministry.

If only she remembered Jesus’ command to “do unto others”, she would have opened her mouth to tell me about Jesus and His love and truth, etc., early on and not later. I am sure she herself would have wanted someone to lead her to the Way, the Truth, and the Life, when she would have found herself in my shoes.

So, you see? It’s not enough that we do not do unto others what we don’t want others do unto us. But we want that others would take action in our time of need. If you see that someone needs Jesus in his or her life, do to him/her what you would have wanted others do to you when you’re lost and your soul is suffering.

I believe we all need encouragement sometimes. Give encouragement to him/her who’s down. You would want that yourself when you found yourself in the same bind.

Do unto others. Move. Don’t be a victim of indifference and inaction.

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  1. Joanie Qualls says:

    Thank you for sharing that wonderful truth, and Amen, Rina!! If we all would let this scripture guide us, being givers in various ways, not getters. There is one blessing , to have Christ centered, salvation “tracts” , to hand out in loving encouragement to many people wherever we go, is such a wonderful way that I like to help and care openly and freely. (And help those we know. I pray them to help me and you as needed, also. )

    • RinaPeru says:

      Amen, Joanie. Indeed, there are souls out there in untold numbers who need the Savior. We have to be His voice and hands.

  2. I hadn’t thought of it this way. Thank you for sharing!

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